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Developing Lasting Relationships


With so many people, obligations and things vying for your time it seems almost impossible to develop lasting friendships in today’s fast-paced word. While it may take some work on your part, it is NOT impossible. Surrounding yourself with good friends is not just a matter of accepting a “friend invite” on your favorite social media platform. In reality, only a small percentage of those you engage with on social media will ever make it into your inner-circle. Most will remain on the outer-circle in the acquaintance category. You know these people on a surface level. You have no real in-dept knowledge of them and nor them of you. Cultivating a lasting friendship requires:

  • Patience
  • External focus (being others oriented)
  • Loyalty
  • Authentic transparency
  • Trust
  • Vulnerability

Developing good friendships that last are very valuable in that they should provide consistent support, encouragement, and honest feedback.  When you search out friends don’t make the mistake of looking for the “perfect friend” who does not exist. “Perfection” only exists in God and expecting it in others will only lead to disappointment. However, this does not mean that you should not have expectations and boundaries concerning how others treat you and your treatment of them. Every action that you make in a relationship could turn into a seed for how you will be treated in the future. Tread lightly and only plant those seeds that you want to receive a harvest.  Consider Galatians 5:22-23 and plant seeds of:

  • Love
  • Joy
  • Peace
  • Patience
  • Kindness
  • Goodness
  • Faithfulness
  • Gentleness
  • Self-control

When you begin to incorporate these tips into your relationships, you will begin to experience friendships that last. Remember, it is about the quality of your friendships not the quantity. More is not always better.