On to the Next
Some people seem to think the best way to get over an ex is to immediately go out and find someone new. Hey if it works for you, great! If you are really hurt behind a break up, however, that method won’t always work. Your emotions will likely be all over the place. Nothing is worse than meeting a person who can’t control their emotions, let alone BE that person.
I know first- hand, that when you are truly in love and lose grip of that relationship, you’re hurt. So every new guy you meet will see that pain, anger, and bitterness. I personally think you owe yourself a little time to heal. Take as much time as you need to get back to who you really are. Pray about it. Build your strength back up. No matter how strong and together you may seem, deep down inside I know you want to scream to the top of your lungs.
As the saying goes, don’t’ punish the next because of your ex. Not every person is the same so it is better to have a clear mind before putting yourself back out in the dating scene. Relationships can drain a lot out of a person. Learn to refocus that energy into other things. Start a new project, work out, volunteer, anything you can do to relax your mind.
If you go out on a date and all you can think about is how your ex used to make you laugh or the conversation you used to have, you’re NOT ready. Don’t rush it.
Rebuild. Refocus. Relax.